“I want my mommy!” is a common cry among young children in distress. I confess, there have been times in my adult life when I silently but fervently made that same cry. Many of us as adults no longer have our earthly mothers to run to for comfort; many of us never had a mother who could provide all the emotional comfort that we deeply desired. As adults, we try to find others who can provide us with emotional support; these might be spouses, partners, friends or therapists. We can also try to provide ourselves with the mother-like support that we need. Self-mothering is the most dependable of all comfort – only self mothering can provide, with pinpoint accuracy, the kind of moment-by-moment support that we need to feel strong and resilient.
Mothering myself has been a goal for me for many years. If you believe that you are a part of the Divine, then to mother ourselves is to tap into our divine essence and comfort ourselves from that holy point within our souls.
Meditation can help us with that, as well as journaling. It is important that we find a sense of peace with our earthly mothers, whether they are still alive or not. It is important that we learn to mother ourselves. Lastly, we need to recognize that mothering ourselves is a way of activating our connection to Mother/Father God. The following meditation is meant to guide us to that realization.
Sit comfortably, with back straight and feet on the ground, or on a meditation cushion or bench. Gently close your eyes. Take several deep breaths to relax your body. Quiet your mind by focusing on the breath for several moments. Let go of any tension in the body – relax your stomach, shoulders, leg muscles, even your face.
When you feel centered and relaxed, imagine your earthly mother. Imagine that she is facing you and you are gazing into each other’s eyes. From your heart, imagine saying to her, “Mother, I know that you love/loved me the best you can/could. I know that your Divine essence loves me dearly. I love you back the best I can right now.” Sit with that thought for a moment, sending her the best love you can. Then, ask her for the support, comfort or understanding that you need right now. Imagine her providing you exactly what you desire, in words, deeds or energy. Perhaps you hear her talking to you, or you imagine her embracing or kissing you. Or you may simply feel her presence.
Now imagine a cloned image of yourself is facing you. Gaze into your own eyes. From your heart, say to your cloned image, “I love you dearly.” Sit with that thought for a moment, sending your cloned imaged the best love you can. Then, ask yourself for the support, comfort or understanding you need right now. Imagine yourself providing exactly what you desire.
Now imagine that you are sitting in the lap of the Divine, the Great Mother/Father, who embraces you completely and envelopes you in powerful love. Snuggle in and stay with this image for a moment. Then ask the Divine for the support, comfort or understanding you need right now. Imagine the Divine providing you exactly what you desire, in words, deeds or energy. Hear, see, feel or sense the abundant love that the Divine so freely gives you. Luxuriate in this moment.
When you have had enough, take a deep breath, open your eyes and smile.